Meet the Parents 2018

Bootcamp parenting

Sanjay and Falguni Nayar’s globetrotting taught their kids to fend for themselves  

Soumik Kar

Between 6:30 am and 8 am, like most families, the Nayars found themselves most active, no matter what city they moved to. Over the span of 27 years they have moved from India to London, then New York and finally, back to India. But, managing their high-pressure careers with twins was a tough task. They’ve had their share of ups and downs, but the IIM-A graduates sure are proud of their kids, Anchit and Adwaita.

The initial couple of years were tough, but Falguni says, “Through the whole process, they have gained some fabulous experience from different countries and today they are what they are because of those.” The cultural khichdi was truly an interesting one, yet it couldn’t have been easy being the new kids in school all the time. “It brought Anchit and me very close, since we got to hang out all the time and often we had just each other. These guys (Sanjay and Falguni) were working all the time, so we had to fend for ourselves,” says Adwaita. There was only one way to get accustomed to the constant moving, and that was accepting change. Philosophical as it may sound, Falguni has been a thorough optimist. “We like to focus on the brighter side of everything. Little things like the lovely school uniforms, with blazers in London and laid back school rules and the excitement to wear casuals in New York, helped the kids get through the constant change.” 

Although they had a maid who came along with them from India to London and then New York to help out with housework and the children, like most kids would, Adwaita missed her mom quite a lot. While she managed to find solace in her brother’s company, it couldn’t replace her mother’s presence. “I have always been a very guilty parent, because I could never spend as much time as I wished to, because of work. The commute was long enough at the time and I would be working late hours. Often my friends would tell me to spend more time with the kids,” Falguni explains. But once the kids settled down, things got better. 

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